Support your partner, but not too much!

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Supporting a partner seems to be the right thing to do, especially when things become rocky.

However,too much support — or the wrong kind of support — may actually do more harm than good.

Couples having problems are often advised to be more supportive of each other.

When it comes to marital satisfaction, both partners are happier if husbands receive the right type of support, and if wives ask for support when they need it.
The couples need to understand the various ways they can be supportive, and the importance of communicating what they need and when.

Often husbands and wives think,If your partner really knows you and loves you, he or she will know you're upset and will know how to help you.However, that’s not the best way to approach.

Your partner shouldn't have to be a mind reader. Couples will be happier if they learn how to say, ‘This is how I’m feeling, and this is how you can help me.'

However, receiving more support than desired is a greater risk factor for marital decline than not being there for a spouse.

If you don’t get enough support, you can make up for that with family and friends — especially women, who tend to have multiple sources of support.When you receive too much support, there’s no way to adjust for that.

Four kinds of support : 
  1. Physical comfort and emotional support (listening and empathizing, taking your spouse’s hand, giving your spouse a hug),
  2. Esteem support (expressing confidence in your partner, providing encouragement)
  3. Informational support (giving advice, gathering information), 
  4. Tangible support (taking on responsibilities so your spouse can deal with a problem, helping to brainstorm solutions to a problem).
In reality, different men want different kinds of support, and different women want different kinds of support.
Be there for your partner.....

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